This morning,while doing my chores,this popped in....and I had 2 abandon the dishes I was already washing to do this...lollll.
Jus wanted you to know that,
If you keep thinking to yourself that maybe 'he/she is not the one for me', 'what if I commit to him/her now and I meet someone better', 'I don't know where this is taking us,I want a long term relationship'...truth is that when eventually you get married you might still think,that there might have been someone better for you out there,and you might blame yourself that you weren't patient enough...so all I'm tryna tell you is that...there'§ no need to burden yourself, if it would or wouldn't work out in the first place.
Learn to live for the NOW!!! Yes maybe true...your partner might not be the one for you...maybe he/she is still in your future....only time will tell.
Just learn to be happy for now.
Where most people get it wrong, especially the female folks is that they exert too much energy in relationships. They wanna know the 'how', 'where' and 'what' factor in the relationship.
Yeah, depending on your kinda person, you might prefer to analyze and draw up projects for the year and know where every aspect of your life is heading to and their final destination...but sincerely, Once dating becomes about the GOAL rather than
the FUN...
... less about the JOURNEY, and more about the
DESTINATION...
... then you start having a horrible time.
Desperation and frustration turn dates from
playtime to work-time. They become 'events' which you feel obliged to attend. Men become
'candidates' to be evaluated accordingly.
(Mirabelle summers).
Just take a deep breath and breathe. Be joyful for what you have....have your life worked out..yeah, that's great but don't forget to be thankful for the love you have everyday, don't encumber yourself with so much statistics and detail in your relationship that it begins to get boring and it becomes to feel like a duty you have been saddled with.
It is great to have a FOCUS...but don't start out in mind that this relationship is tagged 'long term' or 'short term'...if things elevate..fine!. If they don't, fine too!(Very reason why people get hurt, is because they expect too much ...)
Take it one step at a time...if along the line, you two want to make it longterm...then you cα̲̅n begin to hassle and do all that..but don't go complaining about who broke who'§ heart...
*Also, NEVER get into a relationship or stay in a relationship out of pity....
If you don't love him/her, kindly take a hike from their lives....(Obviously when the issues have gone past repairs.).
As I read somewhere, 'if you have two guys that you love, take the 2nd one, because if you loved the 1st...you never would have loved the 2nd...'
It might have been written as a joke, but there are lessons inherent in it....look closely and maybe you will see.
Till...then....pls keep loving!
Sunday, February 20, 2011
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