Sunday, December 16, 2012
A lady and her hair
I had a good laugh today so i decided to share it with you.
Ever gone to the salon really feeling enthusiastic about a new hair do knowing you would kill it? You sit down, concomitantly going through the ordeals, the washing, drying, straightening, bonding, weaving, and sewing.
Besides beauty is pain. Shockingly when you are through, you look into the mirror and what you have staring back at you is nothing but hideous, ok, LOL, maybe i over exaggerated. You look into the mirror and all you see is your joy deflating. The time, energy, expectations e.t.c.
There's something irrefutable about a womans self esteem, emotions and her hair.
If you are a victim of a bad weave or fix, your mood could go from high to low in just seconds.
I made my hair lastweek and it didnt look like it was taking good shape, i was abit sad already, when two 'oversabi' girls walked into the salon, and in a moment were admiring my weave and before i could blink, one quickly added, " i dont like the hair".
I looked at her from the mirror hung orthogonally.
I had nothing to say but console myself with the fact that she was carrying an unkempt and spongy weavon.
"What possibly would she know about hair?", i thought aloud. I was amazed at how immediately i got to my room, i began to see reasons with her and began questioning all my friends, " Is my hair fine?", "are you sure it fits me?".
A few offered me respite, but the others i asked, thought it permission to unleash the can of worms.
Trust me, the next morning, i woke up very early to "re-Do" my hair. No wasting time..lie lie! What could be even worse is a guy telling you,that your hair stinks or that it looks rough or he thinks ''the previous one you did looked better than this, but it is STILL fine SHA!'' So you dont find yourself in such a precarious situation, please keep your hair nets and stuff clean and neat.
Make sure you are satisfied, comfortable and convinced about the style you have chosen.
Maintain one hairstylist!
The relationship between a lady and her stylist is an unexplicable bond.
I get nervous when i have to go to a new salon and i am sure you do too.
So unless you are totally certain that you can damn the consequences, abstain and stick to your stylist, but remember, no change is bad change. Lastly, if you are like me, it means you probably waste alot of time in the salon trying to select a style. Do yourself some good by thinking of it the night before and choose one. If you cant better still stick to what styles work best for you.
Please help a friend build her self esteem, instead of being honest and blunt, when it comes to hair, ladies are very sensitive. Only tell your friend when they ask for the sincere truth, and when you are certain that you are close enough not to sugarcoat, if you are not kindly be a bit less generous with your comments and instead of saying "ahh, its not fine at all, abeg lose am", say, "its not bad o, it would have been better if the stylist did it like this or that". Don't worry you are not lying, you are only consciously helping build a friends esteem. One last thig, if a person doesn't ask you for your input, please dont offer it. You just might walk home with a sore lip. Some girls nor dey Smile o!
Kindky follow @Ehjeerho
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
Relationship 101
I have been a bit perturbed as to the qualities one should give priority to when getting into a relationship.
Its very easy to 'fall in love'. In truth there's nothing complex about the fusion of emotions we so readily describe as 'love'.
A guy meets a girl or vice versa, immediately they feel a need to imprint on you. There's attraction, chemistry.
You can't help it, you start spending time together and before you realize, a relationship ensues.
There's usually no time to discover who truly the other person is.
You get so enthused about it and one day you realize, there's no depth to the relationship. Its shallow!
All you guys do is hang out, sms, call and perhaps have sex, yet you can't get your mind on what's missing. You begin to ask yourself, 'when did he ask me out?'...lol, you were probably to carried away to realize you both just metamorphosed into it.
I found this bio on a dating site, and I appreciated the dude's sincerity.
He wrote;
' A little about me'...
"By "casual relationship" I do not mean casual sex. I am not looking for a "f-buddy" or "booty call" or anything of the sort. I am looking for a lady to be friends first. I could be like a lot of brothers on this site and feed sisters b.s. about wanting a "serious relationship," then play the role until I get the goods, then bounce, or continue to dog her until she figures out the game. Not me. I am not trying to do that. Sex is important, but at this age I'm at the point where I want a whole, full, "grown-up" relationship with a woman whether it involves sex, or not. In any case, sex takes place between the ears, not between the legs. I have to be into a woman from the neck up, before any other part of her anatomy. In my humble opinion, before any relationship can be solidified into something real, I believe we have to be friends first. So, don't be confused or put off by my "casual relationship" stance. I just want us to get to know each other on a friendly level, and if it goes further, then so be it. If not, then at the very least we will have made a friend. We can never have too many friends.
Peace."
Perhaps, you have been here as I also have been.
It just gets to the point that no matter how fun it all seems, you know that there is no substance.
What then should you do?
1.There's no escaping the reality of your relationship, if its working out just like you want it, you can help solidify it. If it's not what you expect, it would be a lot wiser to put an end to it, before you keep hurting yourself emotionally.
2. Before you enter into a new relationship, you have got to define why it should happen. Is it a 'finders-keeper', (anybody you fancy, you date) or 'get committed'(short or long term). Whichever you decide, it's okay.
3. Take it slow. Its best when we become friends first before embarking on the journey. Its true that some people meet their spouses in a day and they get caught in a whirlwind romance. Different strokes for different folks. Just in case yours doesn't happen that way, choose to be strategic and highly intentional about the development.
4. Learn about each others aspirations, visions and dreams. This way, you not only have a name to the face, but you also know the heartfelt desires of your significant other. There are many 'relationships' where communications are almost non existent, they never seem to talk about anything futuristic. When you know the plans of your partner, it's easier to share deeper insights and thus improving your relationship.
5. Have a tradition. Do something together. Just for you both, a special day at a particular time. Preferably, something you repeat monthly. This helps tighten your bond of friendship and intimacy. It also depicts the level of value and commitment your partner places on your relationship. It could be anything from going out on a date on a particular week day, or praying together once every month.
6. Respect, Love and trust.
These I cannot over emphasize. This will completely distinguish and put your relationship on a higher pedestal than the average relationship where anything goes. I see a lot of couples who fight and quarrel, agreed, it seems even better after the make-up *winks*. Its true that at a certain age, a guy or girl enjoys the chase of going for a bitchy girl/cocky guy who seems outspoken, sexy, confident because he/she doesn't give a damn and isn't afraid to say what's on his/her mind...but only because they are still immature and their hormones are raging, so anything could go, this kind of life, I leave it for the adolescents.
(This is where deciding the purpose of the relationship, comes to play.)
If you are in it for a commitment, you know better than to act trashy. Respect, love and trust your partner. Old fashion values never get stale or out of date.
I hope you have found some hints helpful. Suffice to say that, your ability to loyally work around the challenges you encounter in your relationship will pave the way for lasting peace and trust in your love life.
Yours sincerely.
Ehjeerho
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Be Motivated!
There are so many ideas in my think tank, that what baffles me most is the indifference with which i passively pursue my dreams.
It hurts me and yet i do nothing to better the situation. At times i say or do something that is totally inconsistent with the aspirations i nurture and then i go ahead to make restitutions only to find myself back there again.
Someone, during an intense brickbat said i was hypocritical...i ask if it could be true? That i'd say one thing and resort to do another? Like my last post on facebook before this note, i wrote...'I picture my future and i know exactly what it entails to get there and NO,it's not even Hardwork...it's Wisdom.
It's only foolish that if you claim to have dreams as oppossed to the average individual that you would still be caught doing things detrimental to your future. You have got to watch the association you prioritize. The things you spend and invest quality time in...as a friend once said, "I'm where i am, because of the things i've allowed into my head and heart". YOU HAVE GOT TO MAKE CONSCIOUS EFFORT to seperate yourself from those ties that bind. Right now, i'm creating and gathering for myself momentum to propel and rekindle the flints of my passion back to flame. I'm not intrested anymore in having friends that all we do when together is talk of mundane things that benefit not, while there are young people out there making their lives count. Tired of being a conventional person. I'm challenged to believe that i can do better and i know that you feel just the same way, maybe you are also sick of writing and scribbling your aspirations on paper and not being able to do anything tangible. Lets do it together...i believe we can. Life is too short to just be an onlooker. Be motivated! Do something with your time. Don't let a day slip by without trying to train, practice or prepare. If your big breakthrough would come from singing, then by all means sing everyday.cRecord yourself while performing in the privacy of your bathroom and replay, hear your pitfalls for yourself. If you want to open a buisness and you are broke, then implement your strategies to find possible means to save some more or get your hands occupied by offering people your services for a price. Be motivated! Be the best possible you! kindly ffw @Ehjeerho
It hurts me and yet i do nothing to better the situation. At times i say or do something that is totally inconsistent with the aspirations i nurture and then i go ahead to make restitutions only to find myself back there again.
Someone, during an intense brickbat said i was hypocritical...i ask if it could be true? That i'd say one thing and resort to do another? Like my last post on facebook before this note, i wrote...'I picture my future and i know exactly what it entails to get there and NO,it's not even Hardwork...it's Wisdom.
It's only foolish that if you claim to have dreams as oppossed to the average individual that you would still be caught doing things detrimental to your future. You have got to watch the association you prioritize. The things you spend and invest quality time in...as a friend once said, "I'm where i am, because of the things i've allowed into my head and heart". YOU HAVE GOT TO MAKE CONSCIOUS EFFORT to seperate yourself from those ties that bind. Right now, i'm creating and gathering for myself momentum to propel and rekindle the flints of my passion back to flame. I'm not intrested anymore in having friends that all we do when together is talk of mundane things that benefit not, while there are young people out there making their lives count. Tired of being a conventional person. I'm challenged to believe that i can do better and i know that you feel just the same way, maybe you are also sick of writing and scribbling your aspirations on paper and not being able to do anything tangible. Lets do it together...i believe we can. Life is too short to just be an onlooker. Be motivated! Do something with your time. Don't let a day slip by without trying to train, practice or prepare. If your big breakthrough would come from singing, then by all means sing everyday.cRecord yourself while performing in the privacy of your bathroom and replay, hear your pitfalls for yourself. If you want to open a buisness and you are broke, then implement your strategies to find possible means to save some more or get your hands occupied by offering people your services for a price. Be motivated! Be the best possible you! kindly ffw @Ehjeerho
Tuesday, May 29, 2012
psst...who says being single is a curse?
It has been two months and A few days since i adorned myself with the unlikely jewels of singleness, not for want of anything but a time ot to re-evaluate my priorities.
Its been a hard and long tortous sorjourn but one i will gladly emerge galantly. I had gotten alot of reprimands from friends, who claimed with proof i was indecisive when it came to men and that i should settle.
Though, being "young" my defense usually, but a deeper understanding avails me now.
It was so strange being by myself, because somehow i had come to believe that one had got to be in a relationship to be happy...but i see differently now, though not initially and it still isn't easy.
Life is all about relationships , but for some reason we tend to make it about the lack of one relationship. You are not incomplete because you are not a part of a couple.
You are a whole woman just as you are. So be sure to enjoy all the relationships in your life.
On several occassions, i had gotten overwhelmed and tempted into asking a few friends to,'hook me up' and when it didn't seem hopeful; i resorted to praying to God for my future prospective husband...amusingly, it happens to be the favorite part of my daily prayers.
I now enjoy sketching and developing the blue print of the kind of man i desire.
Even though, not being in a relationship seems unlikely these days, i am a true testimony that its merits are more than being in a relationship.
While it's true most single women desire to be married, very few prepare to be a wife .
Use this time to prepare to be the wife God is calling you to be.
There are so many things your foresight and senses are opened to, your perspectives evolve and you know truly what you don't want without the burden of experiencing hurt when trying.
You have more time to focus on you.
To become the woman you want to be.
To realize what your ideals and values are and what you will stand or fall for.
Most importantly, you have ample time to channel your strengths into something productive, into learning simething new, thus no man meets you as a liability.
You are independent emotionally and otherwise.
Here you both will discover you are fully grown and mature, that you are not in the relationship because you are lonely or insecure but because you are ready for a satisfying and fulfilling relationship.
"Being single is about celebrating and appreciating your own space that you're in. I couldn't have lived alone before. I always needed someone to share my space but now I like being by myself. If I want to be with people then I see my friends; if I want a date then I'll have one". - Kelly Rowland.
If you know your worth, you would know what or what you shouldn't up with.
Not every guy would appeal to your senses or needs when you do. Why? Because your relationships are purposeful and you are not just window shopping for anything that fits.
Define who you are and the kind of man you want will be easier to find.
Challenges are tests you must pass to appreciate your results in victory.
It aint always easy, but together we will...so when next you meet someone special and fall in love, you know you are not in it just for the same reason as everyone else is.
Discover who God created you to be...be inspired, be whole, be YOU! And most of all, enjoy the journey!
Friday, May 11, 2012
Insatiability of Man
Why is man insatiable?
A suitable answer to this question would be;
It's in our nature to want everything we can lay our hands on and i am sick and tired.
I just lost a friend and if there was one thing he lived with was simplicity.
I am not against comfort but since i lost my friend through men of the underworld i have lost some of my dog eared convictions and replaced them with new ones.
After amassing all the wealth in life, what next?
The new slogan Y.O.L.O.(you only live once) seems to be the trendiest excuse which guarantees you can do whatever you so please.
I have come to the realization that my life is not my own, just as the clothes and other things i have are merely in my possession
.Life is like a contract for Hire purchase, only this time at the end you dont get to keep your life.The good thing about this is that; whatever options available to you at the end, you have a duty of ensuring you dont default in its payment.
Every day we wake up and we dont realize how big a miracle it is, because we have grown complacent, we take God for granted!
We await to see the crippled walk or the dumb, speak before we accept its a miracle.Life is cruel!But thats why assurance in Christ is guaranteed!
It might not be the popular option to serve God, but again the truth is highly unpopular.
So it doesn't matter whether you are ashamed of living a worthly life or being tagged as boring, the only thing that should mattet is:..there is a God!
Far above; He is watching and waiting for our lives to glorify him.
So if not now, when??!
A suitable answer to this question would be;
It's in our nature to want everything we can lay our hands on and i am sick and tired.
I just lost a friend and if there was one thing he lived with was simplicity.
I am not against comfort but since i lost my friend through men of the underworld i have lost some of my dog eared convictions and replaced them with new ones.
After amassing all the wealth in life, what next?
The new slogan Y.O.L.O.(you only live once) seems to be the trendiest excuse which guarantees you can do whatever you so please.
I have come to the realization that my life is not my own, just as the clothes and other things i have are merely in my possession
.Life is like a contract for Hire purchase, only this time at the end you dont get to keep your life.The good thing about this is that; whatever options available to you at the end, you have a duty of ensuring you dont default in its payment.
Every day we wake up and we dont realize how big a miracle it is, because we have grown complacent, we take God for granted!
We await to see the crippled walk or the dumb, speak before we accept its a miracle.Life is cruel!But thats why assurance in Christ is guaranteed!
It might not be the popular option to serve God, but again the truth is highly unpopular.
So it doesn't matter whether you are ashamed of living a worthly life or being tagged as boring, the only thing that should mattet is:..there is a God!
Far above; He is watching and waiting for our lives to glorify him.
So if not now, when??!
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
you are FAT!
Woke up this morning, and all I could think about after I said a quick prayer was getting up to go do a few stretches and a round of jogging, as if that would have burnt out the calories I accumulated yesterday from two bottles of Sprite, chicken Suya and a few pancakes I had all an hour before I slept.
Ok, so I got geared up, no trainers though i.e. Still at the leisure level, where you still jog with your bathroom slippers...*covers face while laughing*
I start walking to get warmed up. I see a friend of mine who consistently comes out and a few other regular faces. As I began walking, I see a good looking girl, with gorgeous legs, nice complexion, fleshy and voloptuous in all the needed areas and my mind began to wonder.
I know how many times I have talked down on my self in front of others, calling myself fat and immediately it feels like I have given them a licence to call me likewise (I weigh 65kg...or at least the last time I checked).
I'm yet to understand why I'm still so weight sensitive. Why everytime a person tells me, 'ahh; you are getting fat', why I cringe inside?
Truth, is the media has greatly influenced our minds and the ideals we hold. From our taste in fashion, hairstyles, decor and how we define being successful,beautiful or sexy,e.t.c.
It screams to us that we are either thin or slim or your FAT and ugly.
This is not an attempt to console anyone, but a call to challenge you! There's nothing better than feeling really confident with how you look.
If you feel fat, make effort and watch your weight, but don't make it a do or die affair! If there's something I have observed it's that, most ladies are disturbed about their weight not because of their personal feelings but because they attribute their being physically attractive as a major determinant that would make their boyfriends or husbands find them alluring.
If a guy doesn't appreciate you as big as you are, he wouldn't when you are slim.
There are guys that have preferences for plus size ladies. I just need you to know that you have been tricked to believe that you are just a body of liquid fat, but I came to tell you, that you are NOT!
Who says being skinny is sexy? Who says its hot? I know so many thin people looking for a bit of a weight, if its so nice why are they not enjoying it?
Work on yourself, wear good clothes and extricate yourself from vain friends! (Its easy offering advice, I pray I take this one too).
Observe the kind of people you talk to. If they always complain about being fat and how ugly they feel, run away and surround yourself with positive people.
Start a strict diet, cutting out on calories...yet take it easy on yourself!
True beauty really does lie on the inside!
Your just as beautiful as you let your body believe.
Ok, so I got geared up, no trainers though i.e. Still at the leisure level, where you still jog with your bathroom slippers...*covers face while laughing*
I start walking to get warmed up. I see a friend of mine who consistently comes out and a few other regular faces. As I began walking, I see a good looking girl, with gorgeous legs, nice complexion, fleshy and voloptuous in all the needed areas and my mind began to wonder.
I know how many times I have talked down on my self in front of others, calling myself fat and immediately it feels like I have given them a licence to call me likewise (I weigh 65kg...or at least the last time I checked).
I'm yet to understand why I'm still so weight sensitive. Why everytime a person tells me, 'ahh; you are getting fat', why I cringe inside?
Truth, is the media has greatly influenced our minds and the ideals we hold. From our taste in fashion, hairstyles, decor and how we define being successful,beautiful or sexy,e.t.c.
It screams to us that we are either thin or slim or your FAT and ugly.
This is not an attempt to console anyone, but a call to challenge you! There's nothing better than feeling really confident with how you look.
If you feel fat, make effort and watch your weight, but don't make it a do or die affair! If there's something I have observed it's that, most ladies are disturbed about their weight not because of their personal feelings but because they attribute their being physically attractive as a major determinant that would make their boyfriends or husbands find them alluring.
If a guy doesn't appreciate you as big as you are, he wouldn't when you are slim.
There are guys that have preferences for plus size ladies. I just need you to know that you have been tricked to believe that you are just a body of liquid fat, but I came to tell you, that you are NOT!
Who says being skinny is sexy? Who says its hot? I know so many thin people looking for a bit of a weight, if its so nice why are they not enjoying it?
Work on yourself, wear good clothes and extricate yourself from vain friends! (Its easy offering advice, I pray I take this one too).
Observe the kind of people you talk to. If they always complain about being fat and how ugly they feel, run away and surround yourself with positive people.
Start a strict diet, cutting out on calories...yet take it easy on yourself!
True beauty really does lie on the inside!
Your just as beautiful as you let your body believe.
Wednesday, March 7, 2012
1naira got me HARD!!!
M.I's 1naira was the inspiration behind this note.
'You loved me, when no body liked me'
'Whether na 1naira, whether na 1million..baby you gat me'!
Suprisingly, despite new tracks I just can't shake the feeling that engulfs me whenever I hear this song.
Today was one of those days, when my feelings got HARD and was ready to spill forth.
Money and Relationships, two mutually inclusive constants.!
Can one truly love without any sort of financial security in all honesty?
Take a minute or two and draw answers from your own experiences.
I hear a lot of guys say that ladies are all for the money and nothing else.
I'm not certain whose side I'm taking, so I'll leave it to you to tell what you think.
Truth is a lot of sisters have lost it out there, we are rather too focused and stiffnecked on the things which shouldn't be a priority.
Would it be his physical appearance OVER his integrity?
Or his swag/charisma/class OVER his Vision and goals?
The Cash you have to cajole him for OVER his Manners and ettiquete?
Arrogance OVER his Maturity?
Disregard OVER his Respect for you?
Or would you rather a man who doesn't mind showing you off because you look so pretty but yet doesn't care about the unspoken words your heart screams out?
He may not be all that you want...I aint disputing that I'd like to have a crazily rich guy who gets me PAID but what's all that, if I have to work my a$$ out for it?
Why would I want to take all his nonsense and be treated less than what I deserve?
This choice is ours to make, ladies!!!
Like MI sang, ''...cause you see past my revenue, you love me for me, clever you!''.
Find a man, you can grow together with...someone you can believe in, and 'leave you, that's something he will never do'... Be realistic and you would be above the statistics.'!
He's going to get there, and when he gets there, 'guess whose gonna be his baby momma...YOU!!!'
Ladies, check if your Man is a viable seed and invest in him watch your stock skyrocket...stay by despite all.
Money is important! True...but don't throw caution to the wind for it.
Find that person worth loving with or without money...besides it doesn't last forever.
'Whether or not you get money...I'll stay with you if you stay with me'.
'You loved me, when no body liked me'
'Whether na 1naira, whether na 1million..baby you gat me'!
Suprisingly, despite new tracks I just can't shake the feeling that engulfs me whenever I hear this song.
Today was one of those days, when my feelings got HARD and was ready to spill forth.
Money and Relationships, two mutually inclusive constants.!
Can one truly love without any sort of financial security in all honesty?
Take a minute or two and draw answers from your own experiences.
I hear a lot of guys say that ladies are all for the money and nothing else.
I'm not certain whose side I'm taking, so I'll leave it to you to tell what you think.
Truth is a lot of sisters have lost it out there, we are rather too focused and stiffnecked on the things which shouldn't be a priority.
Would it be his physical appearance OVER his integrity?
Or his swag/charisma/class OVER his Vision and goals?
The Cash you have to cajole him for OVER his Manners and ettiquete?
Arrogance OVER his Maturity?
Disregard OVER his Respect for you?
Or would you rather a man who doesn't mind showing you off because you look so pretty but yet doesn't care about the unspoken words your heart screams out?
He may not be all that you want...I aint disputing that I'd like to have a crazily rich guy who gets me PAID but what's all that, if I have to work my a$$ out for it?
Why would I want to take all his nonsense and be treated less than what I deserve?
This choice is ours to make, ladies!!!
Like MI sang, ''...cause you see past my revenue, you love me for me, clever you!''.
Find a man, you can grow together with...someone you can believe in, and 'leave you, that's something he will never do'... Be realistic and you would be above the statistics.'!
He's going to get there, and when he gets there, 'guess whose gonna be his baby momma...YOU!!!'
Ladies, check if your Man is a viable seed and invest in him watch your stock skyrocket...stay by despite all.
Money is important! True...but don't throw caution to the wind for it.
Find that person worth loving with or without money...besides it doesn't last forever.
'Whether or not you get money...I'll stay with you if you stay with me'.
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