This morning,while doing my chores,this popped in....and I had 2 abandon the dishes I was already washing to do this...lollll.
Jus wanted you to know that,
If you keep thinking to yourself that maybe 'he/she is not the one for me', 'what if I commit to him/her now and I meet someone better', 'I don't know where this is taking us,I want a long term relationship'...truth is that when eventually you get married you might still think,that there might have been someone better for you out there,and you might blame yourself that you weren't patient enough...so all I'm tryna tell you is that...there'§ no need to burden yourself, if it would or wouldn't work out in the first place.
Learn to live for the NOW!!! Yes maybe true...your partner might not be the one for you...maybe he/she is still in your future....only time will tell.
Just learn to be happy for now.
Where most people get it wrong, especially the female folks is that they exert too much energy in relationships. They wanna know the 'how', 'where' and 'what' factor in the relationship.
Yeah, depending on your kinda person, you might prefer to analyze and draw up projects for the year and know where every aspect of your life is heading to and their final destination...but sincerely, Once dating becomes about the GOAL rather than
the FUN...
... less about the JOURNEY, and more about the
DESTINATION...
... then you start having a horrible time.
Desperation and frustration turn dates from
playtime to work-time. They become 'events' which you feel obliged to attend. Men become
'candidates' to be evaluated accordingly.
(Mirabelle summers).
Just take a deep breath and breathe. Be joyful for what you have....have your life worked out..yeah, that's great but don't forget to be thankful for the love you have everyday, don't encumber yourself with so much statistics and detail in your relationship that it begins to get boring and it becomes to feel like a duty you have been saddled with.
It is great to have a FOCUS...but don't start out in mind that this relationship is tagged 'long term' or 'short term'...if things elevate..fine!. If they don't, fine too!(Very reason why people get hurt, is because they expect too much ...)
Take it one step at a time...if along the line, you two want to make it longterm...then you cα̲̅n begin to hassle and do all that..but don't go complaining about who broke who'§ heart...
*Also, NEVER get into a relationship or stay in a relationship out of pity....
If you don't love him/her, kindly take a hike from their lives....(Obviously when the issues have gone past repairs.).
As I read somewhere, 'if you have two guys that you love, take the 2nd one, because if you loved the 1st...you never would have loved the 2nd...'
It might have been written as a joke, but there are lessons inherent in it....look closely and maybe you will see.
Till...then....pls keep loving!
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Why girls like bad guys?
Α friend of mine was in α fix.
She was dating α cultist...
We,her commitee of friends tried to bail her out,
everything we did,failed!
She was too stuck to let go.
Movies have cornered us into believing this is true and really it is.
Α seemingly good girl with α sound background always somewhere along the line,
lets go of the good guy everyone approves of and falls head over heels in love with the bad guy.
Why?
The guy necessarily might not be α rascal but as opposed to the nice and very sweet guy;
Who calls frequently...
Calls back when you hang up...
Apologizes when your at fault...
Forgives and loves unconditionally...
Is easily predictable...
So why then would i want α guy who;
I'm only an option to...
In the long run,he has nothing to lose...
Hangs up whenever he likes...
Talks to Me without regard...
Makes me feel like i'm α pest...
Can someone tell Me why???
Interest.
Bad guys are interesting, they do interesting things.
They have strayed from the stereotype.
They do what they want.
They go where they want.
They answer to no one.
They are fascinating.
Summary is that they are Spontaneous.
Bad guys are confident and self assured.
Plus bad guys are a challenge.
We all love a challenge,someone that keeps us coming back for more.
If something is a challenge, the end results must surely be worthwhile, right?
We all go to great lengths to solve mysteries.
Why he behaves like this, why he talks like that.e.t.c.
Once they've conquered the challenge,
they don't want to let go as it makes for an exciting ride.
The thrill and exasperation we get from the thought of losing α bad guy.
(...lolll...we girls get α knack from things too o!),
the greater the efforts put in to keep him.
And there may be a lesson here.
Just imagine What you will have if you combine these facets?
Power, strength of character, confidence,an immensely interesting personality equals sexiness.
That is exactly what the bad boy is..!
so i'm not surprised that the 'typical' bad guy often gets the gal.
E nor mean to say we like am or we wan't to be treated poorly,
neither does it mean that it is in itself a good thing,
but raw attraction can be nature's way.
I am not in any way suggesting that you should all be Mr. Bad Guy.
Not at all.
What I am saying is that there are lessons to be learned here.
What is attractive can be added to your arsenal of dating weaponry.
If you can increase your confidence levels,
get your career on the right tracks...
excel in what you do and be your own man...
then you'll get that bad boy confidence and that attitude will boost your attractiveness.
You don't need to smoke,be an alcoholic or α womanizer to be bad,
but you can be a bit more deliberate in your actions,
a little less available...as they say "less is more"
Keep her pinning for more and she's hooked forever.
Don't try to get all mushy mushy on us, its nice to be doted on but at times α little rigidity is what keeps us,
be a little more enigmatic.
This will boost our interest.
Some people argue that it's the "good" in the bad guy they fall in love with).
(NOTE: the use of "bad" guy is merely metaphorical...)
Suffice to say...
Amidst all this psychological talk...
I'd still prefer my man to be the good guy o!
I'm not up for α man i have to impress or spill tears over.
Abeg...i nor dey "my yam nor done".
Yes..i enjoy spontaneity once in α while but α man who can love selflessly without hurting me has got my love anytime, anyday.
You shouldn't play mind and heart games on Me in the name of trying to keep Me o!
For me, good is sexy too.
Because,i just wonder why na the ones when they make us cry nai we dey appreciate more?
Hmmm...na wa o!
Anyways,
Different strokes for different folks.
Na my own be this, you talk your own.
She was dating α cultist...
We,her commitee of friends tried to bail her out,
everything we did,failed!
She was too stuck to let go.
Movies have cornered us into believing this is true and really it is.
Α seemingly good girl with α sound background always somewhere along the line,
lets go of the good guy everyone approves of and falls head over heels in love with the bad guy.
Why?
The guy necessarily might not be α rascal but as opposed to the nice and very sweet guy;
Who calls frequently...
Calls back when you hang up...
Apologizes when your at fault...
Forgives and loves unconditionally...
Is easily predictable...
So why then would i want α guy who;
I'm only an option to...
In the long run,he has nothing to lose...
Hangs up whenever he likes...
Talks to Me without regard...
Makes me feel like i'm α pest...
Can someone tell Me why???
Interest.
Bad guys are interesting, they do interesting things.
They have strayed from the stereotype.
They do what they want.
They go where they want.
They answer to no one.
They are fascinating.
Summary is that they are Spontaneous.
Bad guys are confident and self assured.
Plus bad guys are a challenge.
We all love a challenge,someone that keeps us coming back for more.
If something is a challenge, the end results must surely be worthwhile, right?
We all go to great lengths to solve mysteries.
Why he behaves like this, why he talks like that.e.t.c.
Once they've conquered the challenge,
they don't want to let go as it makes for an exciting ride.
The thrill and exasperation we get from the thought of losing α bad guy.
(...lolll...we girls get α knack from things too o!),
the greater the efforts put in to keep him.
And there may be a lesson here.
Just imagine What you will have if you combine these facets?
Power, strength of character, confidence,an immensely interesting personality equals sexiness.
That is exactly what the bad boy is..!
so i'm not surprised that the 'typical' bad guy often gets the gal.
E nor mean to say we like am or we wan't to be treated poorly,
neither does it mean that it is in itself a good thing,
but raw attraction can be nature's way.
I am not in any way suggesting that you should all be Mr. Bad Guy.
Not at all.
What I am saying is that there are lessons to be learned here.
What is attractive can be added to your arsenal of dating weaponry.
If you can increase your confidence levels,
get your career on the right tracks...
excel in what you do and be your own man...
then you'll get that bad boy confidence and that attitude will boost your attractiveness.
You don't need to smoke,be an alcoholic or α womanizer to be bad,
but you can be a bit more deliberate in your actions,
a little less available...as they say "less is more"
Keep her pinning for more and she's hooked forever.
Don't try to get all mushy mushy on us, its nice to be doted on but at times α little rigidity is what keeps us,
be a little more enigmatic.
This will boost our interest.
Some people argue that it's the "good" in the bad guy they fall in love with).
(NOTE: the use of "bad" guy is merely metaphorical...)
Suffice to say...
Amidst all this psychological talk...
I'd still prefer my man to be the good guy o!
I'm not up for α man i have to impress or spill tears over.
Abeg...i nor dey "my yam nor done".
Yes..i enjoy spontaneity once in α while but α man who can love selflessly without hurting me has got my love anytime, anyday.
You shouldn't play mind and heart games on Me in the name of trying to keep Me o!
For me, good is sexy too.
Because,i just wonder why na the ones when they make us cry nai we dey appreciate more?
Hmmm...na wa o!
Anyways,
Different strokes for different folks.
Na my own be this, you talk your own.
Monday, February 7, 2011
black valentine
Another 14th approaching...
Just Me,myself and i.
I heave another sigh.
Whoever started this holiday sef?
Mtcheww...
Hmm...who says valentine is the most important day of the year?
I for one have never celebrated any.
Never got gifts from α loved one,not because i was single but i was away.
Alot of people pay undue emphasis on this day...dont know why!
For Me everyday is feb. 14th.
The gifts and presents shouldn't make it any special.
Dont put away savings for that special day,everyday you and your spouse should celebrate the essence of love.
Truth is this gifts dont matter,YES! They dont.
I know 'we' the lady folks,want the pretty things and equate the measure of your love with how much you spend. Oughtn't to be so.
If you appreciate what you have every living minute..a simple kiss would worth more than a blackberry phone.
Also remember that the greatest gift ever given was that which God gave to us,his only begotten son.
However,it aint all about showing love to those who can afford showing it back to us but to those who have no way of repaying you.
Visit the motherless baby homes,give alms,take that widow or widower around you out for α good time.
Do something spontaneous whether as α couple or alone. The best moments of an individuals life are those he/she spends with others.
I'm not trying to psyche you o!
Please buy gifts and express your love however you can. Just know everyday can be val's day.
I'll be expecting mine too.
*winks*
Anyways,i'm torn about what to get myself for the val.
Suggestions are welcomed.
Meanwhile have this from M̶̲̥̅e to Ў☺ΰ:
We give on this day candy and flowers,
But we never stop to say thank you for the many hours.
You have stood by my side and gave a smile,
As if to tell our hearts it's been worth every mile.
No need to buy a teddy bear or even a card,
It's pretty simple and not at all hard.
Just put your arms around me and hold me tight,
And say without words that in your heart all is right.
You may say I Love You throughout the year,
But on this day you need to make sure.
The words so sweet and straight from your heart,
That your life would be lonely without my part.
So put forth the effort and take the time,
Look me in the eye and say I'm glad you're mine.
Have α beautiful 14th.
*yay*
Just Me,myself and i.
I heave another sigh.
Whoever started this holiday sef?
Mtcheww...
Hmm...who says valentine is the most important day of the year?
I for one have never celebrated any.
Never got gifts from α loved one,not because i was single but i was away.
Alot of people pay undue emphasis on this day...dont know why!
For Me everyday is feb. 14th.
The gifts and presents shouldn't make it any special.
Dont put away savings for that special day,everyday you and your spouse should celebrate the essence of love.
Truth is this gifts dont matter,YES! They dont.
I know 'we' the lady folks,want the pretty things and equate the measure of your love with how much you spend. Oughtn't to be so.
If you appreciate what you have every living minute..a simple kiss would worth more than a blackberry phone.
Also remember that the greatest gift ever given was that which God gave to us,his only begotten son.
However,it aint all about showing love to those who can afford showing it back to us but to those who have no way of repaying you.
Visit the motherless baby homes,give alms,take that widow or widower around you out for α good time.
Do something spontaneous whether as α couple or alone. The best moments of an individuals life are those he/she spends with others.
I'm not trying to psyche you o!
Please buy gifts and express your love however you can. Just know everyday can be val's day.
I'll be expecting mine too.
*winks*
Anyways,i'm torn about what to get myself for the val.
Suggestions are welcomed.
Meanwhile have this from M̶̲̥̅e to Ў☺ΰ:
We give on this day candy and flowers,
But we never stop to say thank you for the many hours.
You have stood by my side and gave a smile,
As if to tell our hearts it's been worth every mile.
No need to buy a teddy bear or even a card,
It's pretty simple and not at all hard.
Just put your arms around me and hold me tight,
And say without words that in your heart all is right.
You may say I Love You throughout the year,
But on this day you need to make sure.
The words so sweet and straight from your heart,
That your life would be lonely without my part.
So put forth the effort and take the time,
Look me in the eye and say I'm glad you're mine.
Have α beautiful 14th.
*yay*
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