A few bucks in your pocket.
A Nice house and car.
A well paid job...taking care of the extended family...nothing too profound, a few houserents you paid, a few monthly allowance and you earn the most respected member amongst your kinsmen.
Yet you feel your the dazzling shinning gallant knight in an armour.
Okay...let's rewind this a bit.....
Growing up...you had nobody to cater for you, so you worked hard...really hard and now you have carved a niche for you and your family. No decision gets made without your approval....and your like the great uncle or aunt everyone talks about and wants to spend the xmas with.
So....because you help them, they automatically have to serve you too?
You talk to any of them like you want to, besides your paying their rent. They come over to do your little dirty works, wash your clothes, clean the house, run odd errands. I understand there's a price to pay but it shouldn't be the ultimate goal.
Perhaps, you don't fall into that category, rich kid....with servants, house maids, cleaners in the office, hair stylists, drivers, etc...
Give without expecting...freely you have recieved, freely you should give.
"Great opportunities to help others seldom come, but
small ones surround us every day."
—Sally Koch
"It's important to give without expecting anything in
return, rather than keeping a tally of whom we've
helped and who has helped us. Silence and service go
hand in hand. Random acts of kindness, particularly
those anonymously accomplished, reflect a healthy
non-attachment to deed or outcome."
— Chelle Thompson,
Don't be blinded by the class system in this world...look beyond, too bad many people don't pay thoughts to the life after now....be kind to everyone.
My heart sinks when I see a person of low status being the object of stigmatization and bully just because another feels highly placed.
No matter how rich you are, 'e get person wey rich you, you wey be oga MD, owner of company big pass you.'
Even Matt 11:11 says; 'truly of all men ever born, none shines more brightly than John the baptist andd yet even the lesser lights in the kingdom of Heaven will be greater than he is.'....IMAGINE!!!
"Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward.
Your life will never be the same again."
— Og Mandino
Be careful!
Sunday, December 18, 2011
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
Don't forget to say goodBYE!
Just heard about the death of a guy who just graduated from my school few months ago.
Though I don't know him, but my heart grieves with his parents who have to come to terms that they just lost a son and with him a line of generation unborn in his loins. Also, they have to accept that the huge chunk of money they invested in his education just went down the drain abruptly.
To his siblings, they have lost a brother, an uncle to their kids.
To his girl friend, supposing something serious would have cropped up, no one knows, but certainly some girl out there has got her heart aching.
To his friends and people he held dearly, it hurts to say goodbye.
I cant begin to imagine...
The agony and despair that would embrace this family.
Arghhh...when it was beginning to look like everything would be fine.
This isn't a tactic for you to reaccess your life and check if your bound for hell.(Though pertinent) because some sins are not as obvious as others.
Its rather a quest to make you reprioritize and then you can see what really you have mortgaged to live like this?
Please..don't live a wasted life!
People will come and go... I tell a friend of mine, 'I will go and never come back ooo' and she gets perturbed by the idea I threaten her with it. Truth is, that friend, sibling, parent you treat with pleasurable scorn will go out and might not return. Its at that moment you begin to regret all the things you said, that you want to take back or all those you wish you could have said before they left without saying goodbye.
Live like its going to be your last.
Though I don't know him, but my heart grieves with his parents who have to come to terms that they just lost a son and with him a line of generation unborn in his loins. Also, they have to accept that the huge chunk of money they invested in his education just went down the drain abruptly.
To his siblings, they have lost a brother, an uncle to their kids.
To his girl friend, supposing something serious would have cropped up, no one knows, but certainly some girl out there has got her heart aching.
To his friends and people he held dearly, it hurts to say goodbye.
I cant begin to imagine...
The agony and despair that would embrace this family.
Arghhh...when it was beginning to look like everything would be fine.
This isn't a tactic for you to reaccess your life and check if your bound for hell.(Though pertinent) because some sins are not as obvious as others.
Its rather a quest to make you reprioritize and then you can see what really you have mortgaged to live like this?
Please..don't live a wasted life!
People will come and go... I tell a friend of mine, 'I will go and never come back ooo' and she gets perturbed by the idea I threaten her with it. Truth is, that friend, sibling, parent you treat with pleasurable scorn will go out and might not return. Its at that moment you begin to regret all the things you said, that you want to take back or all those you wish you could have said before they left without saying goodbye.
Live like its going to be your last.
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
Do something!
I remember how different my life was five years ago. An adolescent with so many big dreams, readily available to share with anyone who cared to ask.
Nothing consistent, going hence and forth.
You have been there.
How convinced you were; Yesterday, you wanted to be a lawyer.
Today, a tailor.
Tomorrow, a Farmer.
Yet, those where years ago..now you could laugh at how naive you sounded, the energy you exerted...and many more.
What matters is NOW...!
Maybe you have been lucky enough to gather momentum and kickstart your dream or in the race of trying, you simply travelled light leaving them behind.
Truth is, its not too late.
You still can DO something!
I consider myselfblessed to have around a platter of talented friends who are actively pursuing their dreams, giving it their best to have some responsibility they entrust on themselves to deliver, thereby bringing them joy and fufillment and in turn serving as constant motivation that I should wake up.
I look around and i see a whole lot of striving, hustling, even 'shuffling' ; albeit for the fame, recognition, fortune, relevance...and it got me asking, "what am i doing?"
If people are working hard to carve a niche for themselves, what's my excuse?
Aint you tired of sitting behind, dragging your weight and watching everyone succeed while all you do is spectate, applaud and cheer on? Well, I am!
You may not be a good singer, but you might be a good lyricist.
You may not be a good speaker , but you might be a prolific writer.
You may not know how to sew, but you may have mind blowing designs.
Somehow, God has placed in all of us inherent gifts that would not manifest until we unleash our creativity.
So what is your gift? Each gift is meant to meet a need.
Whatever yours might be, don't hoard it....burst forth with it and impact your world whichever way you can.
There's so much to be done. Too many ideas waiting to be thought....where's your head...?
People complaining about being bored, ahhh, there's so much with not enough ample time to deliver.....!!!!
Don't hide behind excuses.
Once again, if you don't have anyone to believe in you, believe in yourself....and find something to DO!
Don't walk through this earth an unfufilled man/woman. Re-ignite your passion and let's make our lives count.
Disallow mediocrity to reign in your mind.
DO something....because I just did!
Nothing consistent, going hence and forth.
You have been there.
How convinced you were; Yesterday, you wanted to be a lawyer.
Today, a tailor.
Tomorrow, a Farmer.
Yet, those where years ago..now you could laugh at how naive you sounded, the energy you exerted...and many more.
What matters is NOW...!
Maybe you have been lucky enough to gather momentum and kickstart your dream or in the race of trying, you simply travelled light leaving them behind.
Truth is, its not too late.
You still can DO something!
I consider myselfblessed to have around a platter of talented friends who are actively pursuing their dreams, giving it their best to have some responsibility they entrust on themselves to deliver, thereby bringing them joy and fufillment and in turn serving as constant motivation that I should wake up.
I look around and i see a whole lot of striving, hustling, even 'shuffling' ; albeit for the fame, recognition, fortune, relevance...and it got me asking, "what am i doing?"
If people are working hard to carve a niche for themselves, what's my excuse?
Aint you tired of sitting behind, dragging your weight and watching everyone succeed while all you do is spectate, applaud and cheer on? Well, I am!
You may not be a good singer, but you might be a good lyricist.
You may not be a good speaker , but you might be a prolific writer.
You may not know how to sew, but you may have mind blowing designs.
Somehow, God has placed in all of us inherent gifts that would not manifest until we unleash our creativity.
So what is your gift? Each gift is meant to meet a need.
Whatever yours might be, don't hoard it....burst forth with it and impact your world whichever way you can.
There's so much to be done. Too many ideas waiting to be thought....where's your head...?
People complaining about being bored, ahhh, there's so much with not enough ample time to deliver.....!!!!
Don't hide behind excuses.
Once again, if you don't have anyone to believe in you, believe in yourself....and find something to DO!
Don't walk through this earth an unfufilled man/woman. Re-ignite your passion and let's make our lives count.
Disallow mediocrity to reign in your mind.
DO something....because I just did!
Monday, September 12, 2011
Mama Mia
My heart goes out to all the beautiful mothers in the world.
Its true that one can never completly phatom the love of a mother till you carry yours to term.
I am very blessed and greatful that at this age, I'm already an Aunt to two cute boys at the moment.
Though I didnt contribute to their birth, I have contributed one way or the other...through the deafening tears, running endless errands, yelling and at times spanking...there are those Kodak definning moments of bliss.
With the responsibility of being an Aunt...I find a minute itsy-bitsy fraction of what obviously my mother went through, a tad comprehensible.
It is in this state of mind I pen down my upmost thoughts for my mum in the borrowed words of this poem...originally not mine, but I've edited it to suit my African mama.
" For all the times she gently picked me up
when i fell down.
For all the times she tied my shoes
and tucked me into bed,
or needed something
but put me first instead.
When she sent me on errands but
i grumbled,yet she gave me food and
at night still prayed for me.
Those days i got into trouble and begged her to keep it silent, but yet she told dad,even though I would be mad at her.
Those times I refused to give her the remaining change from errands,
when I threw away food she gave to me,
because I didnt want to eat eba...
When I yelled back at her, and drove her mad.
When I took dad's side instead of her's in an argument.
For everything we shared,
the dreams, the laughter,
and the tears,
I love you with a "Special Love"
That deepens every year.
Happy Birthday to you mum....
I love you.
Its true that one can never completly phatom the love of a mother till you carry yours to term.
I am very blessed and greatful that at this age, I'm already an Aunt to two cute boys at the moment.
Though I didnt contribute to their birth, I have contributed one way or the other...through the deafening tears, running endless errands, yelling and at times spanking...there are those Kodak definning moments of bliss.
With the responsibility of being an Aunt...I find a minute itsy-bitsy fraction of what obviously my mother went through, a tad comprehensible.
It is in this state of mind I pen down my upmost thoughts for my mum in the borrowed words of this poem...originally not mine, but I've edited it to suit my African mama.
" For all the times she gently picked me up
when i fell down.
For all the times she tied my shoes
and tucked me into bed,
or needed something
but put me first instead.
When she sent me on errands but
i grumbled,yet she gave me food and
at night still prayed for me.
Those days i got into trouble and begged her to keep it silent, but yet she told dad,even though I would be mad at her.
Those times I refused to give her the remaining change from errands,
when I threw away food she gave to me,
because I didnt want to eat eba...
When I yelled back at her, and drove her mad.
When I took dad's side instead of her's in an argument.
For everything we shared,
the dreams, the laughter,
and the tears,
I love you with a "Special Love"
That deepens every year.
Happy Birthday to you mum....
I love you.
Saturday, July 16, 2011
What if u Die?
We are so apt 2say 'God forbid',if and when a person makes reference to the possibility and inevitability of dying.
It seems almost normal to live for the NOW and adjourn tomorrow.
To create a mental picture of how happy our future should be,without putting up backup plans incase of contigencies.
Is this faith or mere positive thinking?
The issue is not to draw a distinction between faith and positive thinking,but the reason behind the thought 'what if you die'?
Everyday you wake up,say your prayers(if you remember or have one to say),prepare for the day,get busy,satisfy all your cravings,rest and sleep. Now,this is a normal routine,you keep at it consistently everyday,deep in sleep,without a thought of tomorrow,yet also you awaken...it almost feels like a physiological process,just like we blink our eyes.
People living like there's no tomorrow,having fun,doing all sort of things.
Have you ever paused amidst all the drama in your life and really think about the legacy your going to leave behind? How people will speak of you? How excited,devastated or indifferent your friends will feel about the terrible news?What impact you have made on people?Who will miss you?
No!because nobody likes the theme of death.Well too bad,nobody lives forever.
I recently got a call from a friend who informed me that someone i bumped into after a long time is no more! If you have ever lost a friend,family,or loved one, you would know the feeling. I remember how much i cried,when i was told a family friend was dead. He was a sickler,after surviving a tortuous crisis,he was okay and the next minute he was gone. I remember how i kept on postponing to call him,but whenever i had airtime i forgot. When i got the news i dialled his number and it didn't go through, it dawned on me that i didn't even add him on facebook,while i did, it was rather too late,nobody could accept my request! Since that day,i kept thinking, 'what if i die'?
My intents are not to say that you will die...*giggles* but to get you thinking....just what if!
Hell or Heaven? Two BOLD choices...the path you are on is it where you would rather be? I would really love you to take a few minutes and check where your soul would spend eternity. I just thought about mine now and trust me,its not dope!
Live your everyday like theres no tomorrow,stop regretting what you have done,it just might be too late to regret what you havent done.
Live today like its your last.
Forgive people. Accept people. Help people while you can. Never postpone what you can today till tomorrow. It just might be too late to say sorry.
Make that call now, pay the visit, apologize now.
Do it while it counts,while you are alive...at the funeral doesn't count.
Just What if....
We are so apt 2say 'God forbid',if and when a person makes reference to the possibility and inevitability of dying.
It seems almost normal to live for the NOW and adjourn tomorrow.
To create a mental picture of how happy our future should be,without putting up backup plans incase of contigencies.
Is this faith or mere positive thinking?
The issue is not to draw a distinction between faith and positive thinking,but the reason behind the thought 'what if you die'?
Everyday you wake up,say your prayers(if you remember or have one to say),prepare for the day,get busy,satisfy all your cravings,rest and sleep. Now,this is a normal routine,you keep at it consistently everyday,deep in sleep,without a thought of tomorrow,yet also you awaken...it almost feels like a physiological process,just like we blink our eyes.
People living like there's no tomorrow,having fun,doing all sort of things.
Have you ever paused amidst all the drama in your life and really think about the legacy your going to leave behind? How people will speak of you? How excited,devastated or indifferent your friends will feel about the terrible news?What impact you have made on people?Who will miss you?
No!because nobody likes the theme of death.Well too bad,nobody lives forever.
I recently got a call from a friend who informed me that someone i bumped into after a long time is no more! If you have ever lost a friend,family,or loved one, you would know the feeling. I remember how much i cried,when i was told a family friend was dead. He was a sickler,after surviving a tortuous crisis,he was okay and the next minute he was gone. I remember how i kept on postponing to call him,but whenever i had airtime i forgot. When i got the news i dialled his number and it didn't go through, it dawned on me that i didn't even add him on facebook,while i did, it was rather too late,nobody could accept my request! Since that day,i kept thinking, 'what if i die'?
My intents are not to say that you will die...*giggles* but to get you thinking....just what if!
Hell or Heaven? Two BOLD choices...the path you are on is it where you would rather be? I would really love you to take a few minutes and check where your soul would spend eternity. I just thought about mine now and trust me,its not dope!
Live your everyday like theres no tomorrow,stop regretting what you have done,it just might be too late to regret what you havent done.
Live today like its your last.
Forgive people. Accept people. Help people while you can. Never postpone what you can today till tomorrow. It just might be too late to say sorry.
Make that call now, pay the visit, apologize now.
Do it while it counts,while you are alive...at the funeral doesn't count.
Just What if....
Sunday, April 10, 2011
Soggy love
The word 'soggy' puts an image in my head,
One of a roll of tissue paper submerged in water...
Totally messed up and cant be used again.
Love can be this way at times.
Not all relationships experience this,but it does happen.
It can be depressing and irritating.
Trust me I know.
Ever gotten to the point;
where no matter how much your partner loves you,
Nothing's ever good enough?
Like you just lay back,relaxed but yet criticizing and scruitinizing everything they do.
Being irritated and having feats of denail.
You love,but you are not even certain,
Why you stay?
Why you haven't moved on?
There seems to be a huge disparity between both of you;
Intellectually. Spiritually. Emotionally.
The things he/she says are outright dumb...you just pinch yourself everytime there's a stupid remark.
You hardly ever laugh at their joke.
(Writting about this now is irritating...)
You look at their photograph,wherever you hid it and you keep wondering...
How did I fall in love with you?
When did we get here?
What should I do?
Everytime they seem excited about something...you feel the Angst and bile boiling up in you.
You just never seem to want to agree with them because its glaring that your smarter.
It is true that someone with a lower I.Q may piss you off..but who says your any better?
Funny thing about this kinda feeling is that;
Suprisingly, this persons where once upon a time madly and passionately in love with eachother.
You ask, what went wrong?
The Tissue roll dropped!
Truth is, you wake up one morning feeling all resentful..
Because when the signs showed up,you where too scared to be alone!
You where too scared,to handle it.
You thought it would pass.
Now,every time you look into his/her eyes..you throw up emotionally.
Are these feelings mutual or you never experienced them?
If you haven't GOOD for you.
It's nauseous!
What happened is that;
You loved for all the wrong reasons.
You were impatient.
You settled less for yourself and you have to wake up to the realization every day.
At situations like this, need I mention that physical issues and matters of intimacy are on the down low?
Ehen..now I'm talkin abi?
Truth is,it all starts from something.
Its been existing..no matter where your issue originates from..its all soggy!
Do your self good...
Either you take a walk and throw away the tissue or you dry it out!
Soggy love is not something you want.
Learn to love for all the right reasons and don't sacrifice your happiness for some cheap benefits.
One of a roll of tissue paper submerged in water...
Totally messed up and cant be used again.
Love can be this way at times.
Not all relationships experience this,but it does happen.
It can be depressing and irritating.
Trust me I know.
Ever gotten to the point;
where no matter how much your partner loves you,
Nothing's ever good enough?
Like you just lay back,relaxed but yet criticizing and scruitinizing everything they do.
Being irritated and having feats of denail.
You love,but you are not even certain,
Why you stay?
Why you haven't moved on?
There seems to be a huge disparity between both of you;
Intellectually. Spiritually. Emotionally.
The things he/she says are outright dumb...you just pinch yourself everytime there's a stupid remark.
You hardly ever laugh at their joke.
(Writting about this now is irritating...)
You look at their photograph,wherever you hid it and you keep wondering...
How did I fall in love with you?
When did we get here?
What should I do?
Everytime they seem excited about something...you feel the Angst and bile boiling up in you.
You just never seem to want to agree with them because its glaring that your smarter.
It is true that someone with a lower I.Q may piss you off..but who says your any better?
Funny thing about this kinda feeling is that;
Suprisingly, this persons where once upon a time madly and passionately in love with eachother.
You ask, what went wrong?
The Tissue roll dropped!
Truth is, you wake up one morning feeling all resentful..
Because when the signs showed up,you where too scared to be alone!
You where too scared,to handle it.
You thought it would pass.
Now,every time you look into his/her eyes..you throw up emotionally.
Are these feelings mutual or you never experienced them?
If you haven't GOOD for you.
It's nauseous!
What happened is that;
You loved for all the wrong reasons.
You were impatient.
You settled less for yourself and you have to wake up to the realization every day.
At situations like this, need I mention that physical issues and matters of intimacy are on the down low?
Ehen..now I'm talkin abi?
Truth is,it all starts from something.
Its been existing..no matter where your issue originates from..its all soggy!
Do your self good...
Either you take a walk and throw away the tissue or you dry it out!
Soggy love is not something you want.
Learn to love for all the right reasons and don't sacrifice your happiness for some cheap benefits.
Sunday, February 20, 2011
live for NOW
This morning,while doing my chores,this popped in....and I had 2 abandon the dishes I was already washing to do this...lollll.
Jus wanted you to know that,
If you keep thinking to yourself that maybe 'he/she is not the one for me', 'what if I commit to him/her now and I meet someone better', 'I don't know where this is taking us,I want a long term relationship'...truth is that when eventually you get married you might still think,that there might have been someone better for you out there,and you might blame yourself that you weren't patient enough...so all I'm tryna tell you is that...there'§ no need to burden yourself, if it would or wouldn't work out in the first place.
Learn to live for the NOW!!! Yes maybe true...your partner might not be the one for you...maybe he/she is still in your future....only time will tell.
Just learn to be happy for now.
Where most people get it wrong, especially the female folks is that they exert too much energy in relationships. They wanna know the 'how', 'where' and 'what' factor in the relationship.
Yeah, depending on your kinda person, you might prefer to analyze and draw up projects for the year and know where every aspect of your life is heading to and their final destination...but sincerely, Once dating becomes about the GOAL rather than
the FUN...
... less about the JOURNEY, and more about the
DESTINATION...
... then you start having a horrible time.
Desperation and frustration turn dates from
playtime to work-time. They become 'events' which you feel obliged to attend. Men become
'candidates' to be evaluated accordingly.
(Mirabelle summers).
Just take a deep breath and breathe. Be joyful for what you have....have your life worked out..yeah, that's great but don't forget to be thankful for the love you have everyday, don't encumber yourself with so much statistics and detail in your relationship that it begins to get boring and it becomes to feel like a duty you have been saddled with.
It is great to have a FOCUS...but don't start out in mind that this relationship is tagged 'long term' or 'short term'...if things elevate..fine!. If they don't, fine too!(Very reason why people get hurt, is because they expect too much ...)
Take it one step at a time...if along the line, you two want to make it longterm...then you cα̲̅n begin to hassle and do all that..but don't go complaining about who broke who'§ heart...
*Also, NEVER get into a relationship or stay in a relationship out of pity....
If you don't love him/her, kindly take a hike from their lives....(Obviously when the issues have gone past repairs.).
As I read somewhere, 'if you have two guys that you love, take the 2nd one, because if you loved the 1st...you never would have loved the 2nd...'
It might have been written as a joke, but there are lessons inherent in it....look closely and maybe you will see.
Till...then....pls keep loving!
Jus wanted you to know that,
If you keep thinking to yourself that maybe 'he/she is not the one for me', 'what if I commit to him/her now and I meet someone better', 'I don't know where this is taking us,I want a long term relationship'...truth is that when eventually you get married you might still think,that there might have been someone better for you out there,and you might blame yourself that you weren't patient enough...so all I'm tryna tell you is that...there'§ no need to burden yourself, if it would or wouldn't work out in the first place.
Learn to live for the NOW!!! Yes maybe true...your partner might not be the one for you...maybe he/she is still in your future....only time will tell.
Just learn to be happy for now.
Where most people get it wrong, especially the female folks is that they exert too much energy in relationships. They wanna know the 'how', 'where' and 'what' factor in the relationship.
Yeah, depending on your kinda person, you might prefer to analyze and draw up projects for the year and know where every aspect of your life is heading to and their final destination...but sincerely, Once dating becomes about the GOAL rather than
the FUN...
... less about the JOURNEY, and more about the
DESTINATION...
... then you start having a horrible time.
Desperation and frustration turn dates from
playtime to work-time. They become 'events' which you feel obliged to attend. Men become
'candidates' to be evaluated accordingly.
(Mirabelle summers).
Just take a deep breath and breathe. Be joyful for what you have....have your life worked out..yeah, that's great but don't forget to be thankful for the love you have everyday, don't encumber yourself with so much statistics and detail in your relationship that it begins to get boring and it becomes to feel like a duty you have been saddled with.
It is great to have a FOCUS...but don't start out in mind that this relationship is tagged 'long term' or 'short term'...if things elevate..fine!. If they don't, fine too!(Very reason why people get hurt, is because they expect too much ...)
Take it one step at a time...if along the line, you two want to make it longterm...then you cα̲̅n begin to hassle and do all that..but don't go complaining about who broke who'§ heart...
*Also, NEVER get into a relationship or stay in a relationship out of pity....
If you don't love him/her, kindly take a hike from their lives....(Obviously when the issues have gone past repairs.).
As I read somewhere, 'if you have two guys that you love, take the 2nd one, because if you loved the 1st...you never would have loved the 2nd...'
It might have been written as a joke, but there are lessons inherent in it....look closely and maybe you will see.
Till...then....pls keep loving!
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Why girls like bad guys?
Α friend of mine was in α fix.
She was dating α cultist...
We,her commitee of friends tried to bail her out,
everything we did,failed!
She was too stuck to let go.
Movies have cornered us into believing this is true and really it is.
Α seemingly good girl with α sound background always somewhere along the line,
lets go of the good guy everyone approves of and falls head over heels in love with the bad guy.
Why?
The guy necessarily might not be α rascal but as opposed to the nice and very sweet guy;
Who calls frequently...
Calls back when you hang up...
Apologizes when your at fault...
Forgives and loves unconditionally...
Is easily predictable...
So why then would i want α guy who;
I'm only an option to...
In the long run,he has nothing to lose...
Hangs up whenever he likes...
Talks to Me without regard...
Makes me feel like i'm α pest...
Can someone tell Me why???
Interest.
Bad guys are interesting, they do interesting things.
They have strayed from the stereotype.
They do what they want.
They go where they want.
They answer to no one.
They are fascinating.
Summary is that they are Spontaneous.
Bad guys are confident and self assured.
Plus bad guys are a challenge.
We all love a challenge,someone that keeps us coming back for more.
If something is a challenge, the end results must surely be worthwhile, right?
We all go to great lengths to solve mysteries.
Why he behaves like this, why he talks like that.e.t.c.
Once they've conquered the challenge,
they don't want to let go as it makes for an exciting ride.
The thrill and exasperation we get from the thought of losing α bad guy.
(...lolll...we girls get α knack from things too o!),
the greater the efforts put in to keep him.
And there may be a lesson here.
Just imagine What you will have if you combine these facets?
Power, strength of character, confidence,an immensely interesting personality equals sexiness.
That is exactly what the bad boy is..!
so i'm not surprised that the 'typical' bad guy often gets the gal.
E nor mean to say we like am or we wan't to be treated poorly,
neither does it mean that it is in itself a good thing,
but raw attraction can be nature's way.
I am not in any way suggesting that you should all be Mr. Bad Guy.
Not at all.
What I am saying is that there are lessons to be learned here.
What is attractive can be added to your arsenal of dating weaponry.
If you can increase your confidence levels,
get your career on the right tracks...
excel in what you do and be your own man...
then you'll get that bad boy confidence and that attitude will boost your attractiveness.
You don't need to smoke,be an alcoholic or α womanizer to be bad,
but you can be a bit more deliberate in your actions,
a little less available...as they say "less is more"
Keep her pinning for more and she's hooked forever.
Don't try to get all mushy mushy on us, its nice to be doted on but at times α little rigidity is what keeps us,
be a little more enigmatic.
This will boost our interest.
Some people argue that it's the "good" in the bad guy they fall in love with).
(NOTE: the use of "bad" guy is merely metaphorical...)
Suffice to say...
Amidst all this psychological talk...
I'd still prefer my man to be the good guy o!
I'm not up for α man i have to impress or spill tears over.
Abeg...i nor dey "my yam nor done".
Yes..i enjoy spontaneity once in α while but α man who can love selflessly without hurting me has got my love anytime, anyday.
You shouldn't play mind and heart games on Me in the name of trying to keep Me o!
For me, good is sexy too.
Because,i just wonder why na the ones when they make us cry nai we dey appreciate more?
Hmmm...na wa o!
Anyways,
Different strokes for different folks.
Na my own be this, you talk your own.
She was dating α cultist...
We,her commitee of friends tried to bail her out,
everything we did,failed!
She was too stuck to let go.
Movies have cornered us into believing this is true and really it is.
Α seemingly good girl with α sound background always somewhere along the line,
lets go of the good guy everyone approves of and falls head over heels in love with the bad guy.
Why?
The guy necessarily might not be α rascal but as opposed to the nice and very sweet guy;
Who calls frequently...
Calls back when you hang up...
Apologizes when your at fault...
Forgives and loves unconditionally...
Is easily predictable...
So why then would i want α guy who;
I'm only an option to...
In the long run,he has nothing to lose...
Hangs up whenever he likes...
Talks to Me without regard...
Makes me feel like i'm α pest...
Can someone tell Me why???
Interest.
Bad guys are interesting, they do interesting things.
They have strayed from the stereotype.
They do what they want.
They go where they want.
They answer to no one.
They are fascinating.
Summary is that they are Spontaneous.
Bad guys are confident and self assured.
Plus bad guys are a challenge.
We all love a challenge,someone that keeps us coming back for more.
If something is a challenge, the end results must surely be worthwhile, right?
We all go to great lengths to solve mysteries.
Why he behaves like this, why he talks like that.e.t.c.
Once they've conquered the challenge,
they don't want to let go as it makes for an exciting ride.
The thrill and exasperation we get from the thought of losing α bad guy.
(...lolll...we girls get α knack from things too o!),
the greater the efforts put in to keep him.
And there may be a lesson here.
Just imagine What you will have if you combine these facets?
Power, strength of character, confidence,an immensely interesting personality equals sexiness.
That is exactly what the bad boy is..!
so i'm not surprised that the 'typical' bad guy often gets the gal.
E nor mean to say we like am or we wan't to be treated poorly,
neither does it mean that it is in itself a good thing,
but raw attraction can be nature's way.
I am not in any way suggesting that you should all be Mr. Bad Guy.
Not at all.
What I am saying is that there are lessons to be learned here.
What is attractive can be added to your arsenal of dating weaponry.
If you can increase your confidence levels,
get your career on the right tracks...
excel in what you do and be your own man...
then you'll get that bad boy confidence and that attitude will boost your attractiveness.
You don't need to smoke,be an alcoholic or α womanizer to be bad,
but you can be a bit more deliberate in your actions,
a little less available...as they say "less is more"
Keep her pinning for more and she's hooked forever.
Don't try to get all mushy mushy on us, its nice to be doted on but at times α little rigidity is what keeps us,
be a little more enigmatic.
This will boost our interest.
Some people argue that it's the "good" in the bad guy they fall in love with).
(NOTE: the use of "bad" guy is merely metaphorical...)
Suffice to say...
Amidst all this psychological talk...
I'd still prefer my man to be the good guy o!
I'm not up for α man i have to impress or spill tears over.
Abeg...i nor dey "my yam nor done".
Yes..i enjoy spontaneity once in α while but α man who can love selflessly without hurting me has got my love anytime, anyday.
You shouldn't play mind and heart games on Me in the name of trying to keep Me o!
For me, good is sexy too.
Because,i just wonder why na the ones when they make us cry nai we dey appreciate more?
Hmmm...na wa o!
Anyways,
Different strokes for different folks.
Na my own be this, you talk your own.
Monday, February 7, 2011
black valentine
Another 14th approaching...
Just Me,myself and i.
I heave another sigh.
Whoever started this holiday sef?
Mtcheww...
Hmm...who says valentine is the most important day of the year?
I for one have never celebrated any.
Never got gifts from α loved one,not because i was single but i was away.
Alot of people pay undue emphasis on this day...dont know why!
For Me everyday is feb. 14th.
The gifts and presents shouldn't make it any special.
Dont put away savings for that special day,everyday you and your spouse should celebrate the essence of love.
Truth is this gifts dont matter,YES! They dont.
I know 'we' the lady folks,want the pretty things and equate the measure of your love with how much you spend. Oughtn't to be so.
If you appreciate what you have every living minute..a simple kiss would worth more than a blackberry phone.
Also remember that the greatest gift ever given was that which God gave to us,his only begotten son.
However,it aint all about showing love to those who can afford showing it back to us but to those who have no way of repaying you.
Visit the motherless baby homes,give alms,take that widow or widower around you out for α good time.
Do something spontaneous whether as α couple or alone. The best moments of an individuals life are those he/she spends with others.
I'm not trying to psyche you o!
Please buy gifts and express your love however you can. Just know everyday can be val's day.
I'll be expecting mine too.
*winks*
Anyways,i'm torn about what to get myself for the val.
Suggestions are welcomed.
Meanwhile have this from M̶̲̥̅e to Ў☺ΰ:
We give on this day candy and flowers,
But we never stop to say thank you for the many hours.
You have stood by my side and gave a smile,
As if to tell our hearts it's been worth every mile.
No need to buy a teddy bear or even a card,
It's pretty simple and not at all hard.
Just put your arms around me and hold me tight,
And say without words that in your heart all is right.
You may say I Love You throughout the year,
But on this day you need to make sure.
The words so sweet and straight from your heart,
That your life would be lonely without my part.
So put forth the effort and take the time,
Look me in the eye and say I'm glad you're mine.
Have α beautiful 14th.
*yay*
Just Me,myself and i.
I heave another sigh.
Whoever started this holiday sef?
Mtcheww...
Hmm...who says valentine is the most important day of the year?
I for one have never celebrated any.
Never got gifts from α loved one,not because i was single but i was away.
Alot of people pay undue emphasis on this day...dont know why!
For Me everyday is feb. 14th.
The gifts and presents shouldn't make it any special.
Dont put away savings for that special day,everyday you and your spouse should celebrate the essence of love.
Truth is this gifts dont matter,YES! They dont.
I know 'we' the lady folks,want the pretty things and equate the measure of your love with how much you spend. Oughtn't to be so.
If you appreciate what you have every living minute..a simple kiss would worth more than a blackberry phone.
Also remember that the greatest gift ever given was that which God gave to us,his only begotten son.
However,it aint all about showing love to those who can afford showing it back to us but to those who have no way of repaying you.
Visit the motherless baby homes,give alms,take that widow or widower around you out for α good time.
Do something spontaneous whether as α couple or alone. The best moments of an individuals life are those he/she spends with others.
I'm not trying to psyche you o!
Please buy gifts and express your love however you can. Just know everyday can be val's day.
I'll be expecting mine too.
*winks*
Anyways,i'm torn about what to get myself for the val.
Suggestions are welcomed.
Meanwhile have this from M̶̲̥̅e to Ў☺ΰ:
We give on this day candy and flowers,
But we never stop to say thank you for the many hours.
You have stood by my side and gave a smile,
As if to tell our hearts it's been worth every mile.
No need to buy a teddy bear or even a card,
It's pretty simple and not at all hard.
Just put your arms around me and hold me tight,
And say without words that in your heart all is right.
You may say I Love You throughout the year,
But on this day you need to make sure.
The words so sweet and straight from your heart,
That your life would be lonely without my part.
So put forth the effort and take the time,
Look me in the eye and say I'm glad you're mine.
Have α beautiful 14th.
*yay*
Thursday, January 6, 2011
Birth of me.
Wow...
So i'm finally here.
I wish u would know how much i wanted to do this.
Getting my own blog...the idea seemed lovely and self-actualizing but when i tried to venture into it,i began to procastinate. I thought about the expense of time of which i couldn't afford the luxury.
But here i am today...
I'm happy.
I feel superb that somehow i have taken some small baby steps into actualizing a desire in 2011.
I definitly have no idea of how the future of this blog is going to be like...but for this 1st time,i'm having pleasure knowing that i'm living for the NOW!!!
Welcome 2 Lelora's blog.
So i'm finally here.
I wish u would know how much i wanted to do this.
Getting my own blog...the idea seemed lovely and self-actualizing but when i tried to venture into it,i began to procastinate. I thought about the expense of time of which i couldn't afford the luxury.
But here i am today...
I'm happy.
I feel superb that somehow i have taken some small baby steps into actualizing a desire in 2011.
I definitly have no idea of how the future of this blog is going to be like...but for this 1st time,i'm having pleasure knowing that i'm living for the NOW!!!
Welcome 2 Lelora's blog.
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