Tuesday, May 29, 2012
psst...who says being single is a curse?
It has been two months and A few days since i adorned myself with the unlikely jewels of singleness, not for want of anything but a time ot to re-evaluate my priorities.
Its been a hard and long tortous sorjourn but one i will gladly emerge galantly. I had gotten alot of reprimands from friends, who claimed with proof i was indecisive when it came to men and that i should settle.
Though, being "young" my defense usually, but a deeper understanding avails me now.
It was so strange being by myself, because somehow i had come to believe that one had got to be in a relationship to be happy...but i see differently now, though not initially and it still isn't easy.
Life is all about relationships , but for some reason we tend to make it about the lack of one relationship. You are not incomplete because you are not a part of a couple.
You are a whole woman just as you are. So be sure to enjoy all the relationships in your life.
On several occassions, i had gotten overwhelmed and tempted into asking a few friends to,'hook me up' and when it didn't seem hopeful; i resorted to praying to God for my future prospective husband...amusingly, it happens to be the favorite part of my daily prayers.
I now enjoy sketching and developing the blue print of the kind of man i desire.
Even though, not being in a relationship seems unlikely these days, i am a true testimony that its merits are more than being in a relationship.
While it's true most single women desire to be married, very few prepare to be a wife .
Use this time to prepare to be the wife God is calling you to be.
There are so many things your foresight and senses are opened to, your perspectives evolve and you know truly what you don't want without the burden of experiencing hurt when trying.
You have more time to focus on you.
To become the woman you want to be.
To realize what your ideals and values are and what you will stand or fall for.
Most importantly, you have ample time to channel your strengths into something productive, into learning simething new, thus no man meets you as a liability.
You are independent emotionally and otherwise.
Here you both will discover you are fully grown and mature, that you are not in the relationship because you are lonely or insecure but because you are ready for a satisfying and fulfilling relationship.
"Being single is about celebrating and appreciating your own space that you're in. I couldn't have lived alone before. I always needed someone to share my space but now I like being by myself. If I want to be with people then I see my friends; if I want a date then I'll have one". - Kelly Rowland.
If you know your worth, you would know what or what you shouldn't up with.
Not every guy would appeal to your senses or needs when you do. Why? Because your relationships are purposeful and you are not just window shopping for anything that fits.
Define who you are and the kind of man you want will be easier to find.
Challenges are tests you must pass to appreciate your results in victory.
It aint always easy, but together we will...so when next you meet someone special and fall in love, you know you are not in it just for the same reason as everyone else is.
Discover who God created you to be...be inspired, be whole, be YOU! And most of all, enjoy the journey!
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